I first visited a gay sauna 25 years ago and have done so about once every six weeks since. Only adults are admitted; all that happens is by mutual consent; no one is exploited; common courtesy and consideration for others are the unwritten rules that are generally observed. Though I have always enjoyed nudity, I used to think of my body as unattractive. For years I disliked my given name. I have made a point of telling it to those I have met in the sauna; hearing it repeated with tenderness and passion has taught me to love it. When clothes are off, intentions clear and vulnerability shared, men talk honestly to men they may know only then and may never meet again.
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Armed forces. These are the voices explaining what it has been like to be a gay man 1 in the American military over the previous seventy or so years, from World War II veterans in their late eighties to young servicemen on active duty. How we got here: In , many people thought that the discrimination was nearly over. This was presented as a kind of victory for the forces of progress—you were no longer excluded from serving—but it could instead be seen as solidifying discrimination. Gay people were only acceptable, in effect, to the degree to which they could successfully masquerade as nongay. Still, the whispered message from Clinton and Gore seemed to be that this was only a temporary stopgap while the nervous military took a large deep breath: Trust us , they seemed to imply. It took seventeen years.
Paul started calling himself Results-Oriented around the time we had our first foursome with a straight-presenting, queer-identified couple. For the most part, we engaged in heterosexual and lesbian activities, but at one point, I let it slip that watching two men together has always been one of my top turn-ons. Our male partner looked up with excitement and climbed on top of Paul.
In the last apartment they are likely ever to live in together, Kenneth Leedom and Peter Cott were talking about eros and the public life of New York — which is to say, sex on a moving subway train. Leedom is 88; Mr. Cott is And I think it cost a nickel to get in in those days. Leedom and Mr.