By Anna Edwards. As advice goes, it hardly sounds like the recipe for marital bliss. But one academic claims that a 'sour' view of cheating is weakening British family life by prompting couples to divorce. Rather than having a rigid and unforgiving opinion on affairs the British should learn to be more liberal with their lovers, social scientist Catherine Hakim claims. Director Rupert Sanders was recently caught out having an affair with actress Kristen Stewart Educated in France, the bestselling author says that meeting with a secret romance for a brief fling should be a staple of British love lives - and puts it on a par with having dinner with your long-term partner.
Having An Affair: Catherine Hakim's New Book Suggests Affairs Can Keep A Marriage Happy
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The ongoing drama of navigating single parenting and life after divorce, supported by wine, travelling and friends. Catherine Hakim has had a lot of publicity this week for her new book about internet dating. She is a sociologist who believes that it is time to redraw marital rules with a significant change in attitude towards fidelity. This sort of book fills me with sadness because perhaps she is right.
The New Rules
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Francois Hollande's sexual adventures are a private matter, with no bearing on his role as President - French polls confirm. French privacy laws support this idea - in contrast with Anglo-Saxon punitive reactions to affairs. Within Europe, the French have possibly the most permissive views on affairs and casual flings, which are taken for granted as something that happen throughout life, if you are lucky.